Mom Systems Growing for the Year
I have mopped my kitchen floor three Mondays in a row. I also spot mopped on Friday. This is a huge undertaking for me…the whole “regular mopping” thing. I’m working toward a schedule so that I don’t have to be inspired to do certain things, they just get done on those days and inspiration can be left over for other more creative undertakings. Today, I had decided is “sheet changing day”. I’m not sure why it’s hard for me to also tackle a big chore on Tuesday, but it is. I think, possibly because I WAS just going to change the sheets. Then, somewhere along the way, I thought it was more efficient, perhaps, to take them off, wash them, and put them back on. This, however, will take up the whole day and I will not have time to do other things. Rather than re-simplifying the task, I’ve let dread force me into wasting a considerable amount of time.
On the upside, the surfaces are all wiped down, the dishes are all clean, the dishwasher is running, I’ve had some form of devotion time, have caught up with a few friends on facebook, and fixed myself a second cup of coffee. I also tagged about four months worth of untagged photos. I’ve very much cut down on photo-taking lately, mainly in an effort to get caught up on other tasks I’ve neglected (body, house, spiritual disciplines).
I am convicted mostly this week to introduce more of the word into my training up of my kids…how, not sure yet, but keeping my heart open for opportunities. I committed this weekend to write them notes of encouragement praising them on some tasks well done. I was more lax than I’ve been yesterday on reminding them to basic pick up of socks, clothes, towels, and shoes…however, it’s time to put the ball back in their court.
Last week, I made a short list for each of them of things I was picking them up or nagging them about constantly. I was worn out with it. I gave them a total of 8 demerits each, and if they passed their limit, they missed an opportunity for entertainment on the weekend…something that would hurt. (Pizza night, movie night…trip…company whatever…). They have been much more conscious of helping me with the table at night. Even my man is more conscious of helping put things away. My kitchen has been much more manageable, and they are more willing to do chores because I’m not already spending all my direction energy/communication on basic tasks. I have a dry erase on the board and they get marks for each demerit. Today, I have “ipod cord hanging out of the computer” for one, and 2 “socks”.
It just seems to have helped put the ball in their court and get it out of mine. I am finding my spaces easier to manage as well because I’m not managing all of theirs.
Occasionally, I give them a “tidy alert” so that they may have opportunity to back-track and avoid directions. Other times, I surprise them if I’ve given that warning already once that week.
I’m just glad for some new inspiration and that something is working…I’ve been able to tackle more household jobs than I did in the past, just feeling overwhelmed with all the scattered spaces. I could never get on a cleaning schedule for all the tidying that needed to be done.
I know I’m re-inventing the wheel in some ways because fly-lady.com has schedules for things to do every day. I just think it’s working because I’m doing the things I KNOW need to be done and the things that are blessing me and my family and I’m growing into it as I can…not because a method tells me to do it.
My physical exercise program is working much the same way…just as I can grow into it with some motivation from sources like prevention.com and one magazine (I have a phobia about subscriptions and paper mess so I probably won’t subscribe). Love their online tools, however. Tried a few last week, but am not so good at logs. Working on that, though…just to make me more aware.
Daughter asked me to kindly bring her lunch today, so I’d better get on with the sheets if that one is to be done today!
Entry filed under: Everyday.