Friendships, Part 2

March 31, 2008 at 1:19 pm 2 comments

Stacey wrote about last week’s post on the friendships of women.   I wanted to add a couple thoughts some of you have reminded me of as a result of that post. First, there’s this (see photo below):


Jesus had a community at large, who he always welcomed and never turned away.  These included people of all ages, despite the disciples trying to keep him “focused”.  Next, he had a smaller group he discipled of 12.  Finally, he had an inner core within that group of people who were more intimate friends. 

These men and woman sought after him.  They were not “just” his disciples.  They were into his heart of hearts.  He did not flaunt this with the rest of the group, but an observer could find them always near, mentioned, and spoken of with some sort of special attention.  

It’s not that he was exclusive…far from it.  He just had some who were closer.  This is normal and natural in friendships.  He just never let them keep him from the work God had for him to do with the others. 

Now, for another set of Bibical examples:


“Pauls”:  these are those people who disciple, build up, and can speak truth plainly to us with grace so that we can hear it and grow up under their care.  They may “pass the torch” to us in some ways.   

“Barnabuses”:  Barnabus’s name literally meant “son of encouragement”.  We don’t read a great deal about Barnabus, but we know that he was “easy” to be around, lifted others up, walked alongside Paul to help him, and carried joy with him, not needing to be in the spotlight.  These people refresh us just by being themselves.  They bring refreshment and joy.  Thinking further, I would say that the Biblical Ruth would also fall in this category somewhat, though she might deserve her own!  She was a servant-encourager-caretaker.  Hmmm.  Yup, she needs her own spot, but I’m not making another graphic today!

“Timothys”:  These people are often new Christians, or people who might benefit from walking with us for a while.  They may need deeper roots, instruction, or encouragement.  They may have many questions and we see great potential in them.

These roles can change according to the topic/area, and relationship may change over time.  

I’ve had some who recommend that you always seek to have one of each in your life.  I’ve found that in some seasons, God may direct most of my time to one, but over time, you will be able to have a “well-built-house” if you activily seek to identify and fill your life with all three. 

As you look at your friendships, how is your balance?  Pray for God to add to your life what is “missing” in His time!  Over time, He will show you those people He puts in your life to challenge you, walk with you, and stretch you to make disciples.

Are these thoughts new to you?


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2 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Cindy  |  March 31, 2008 at 5:38 pm

    oooooh, good post

  • 2. darcirox  |  April 1, 2008 at 8:37 pm

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