Gigi Graham Tchividjian
July 8, 2006
This blog entry is dedicated to finding God in the midst of the mundane: “life worship”. “Life prayer”. Often we cannot find dedicated time in our day to sit down and have what is traditionally known as a “quiet times”. I love author Gigi Graham Tchividjian’s ideas for how to accomplish a “quiet time” when things are far from quiet. She writes the article for Discipleship Journal Online. |
Gigi Graham Tchividjian is a conference speaker and the author of Diapers & Dishes or Pinstripes & Pumps (Thomas Nelson, 1987).
Go read the article, then come back to see me for more tips for “life worship” as a young mom! I’d love to hear from you!
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1. Mag | November 22, 2006 at 11:01 am
There was a comment on this site asking about Gigi’s marital status. That question is answered here:
An update on Gigi Graham “Foreman”
News: http://www.journalstar.com/articles/2006/11/14/local/doc45590d8957448790343906.txt
and
Blog discussion: http://fundys.blogspot.com/2008/02/billy-graham-and-arranged-marriages.html (be sure to read the comments).
Here we will withhold our comments on divorce without knowing facts or details. There are reasons for divorce, and for reports we may hear in the media. I pray for the influence and boldness of our Christian leaders.
2. Sharon Broome | August 14, 2007 at 5:45 pm
On your book “For Women Only” , where did you get the picture that is on the cover?
3. Betty Murphy | February 19, 2008 at 9:30 pm
I am saddened by another divorce and by what seems to be more excuses. I know sometimes divorce is inevitable, but remarriage? The Bible does say not to marry again after divorcing. What is this doing to marriages who are having trouble? Is it giving them a way out? Is this sending a message that if your marriage isn’t working just divorce. Quit making excuses. There is something very wrong here.
4. julie | December 1, 2008 at 8:46 pm
DEAR GIG, YOU HELPED MY LITTLE SISTER IN THE HARD TIME IN HER LIFE, SHE HAS OVERCOME MANY OBSTACLES. UNFORTUNATELY, HER LIFE IS GOING TO BE CUT SHORT, KNOW HOW MUCH SHE APPRECIATED YOU. I LOVE YOU GIGI
5. Michelle Richardson | December 20, 2008 at 8:05 pm
I totally agree with Betty Murphy in her comment about the divorce of Billy Graham’s daughter Gigi. I, too, have 7 children with my husband. We divorced after 27 years of marriage, but because the Word says that I am not to remarry another man other than my husband, I refused to listen to “good intentioned Christians” and “get on with my life”. I obeyed the Lord through pain and suffering, and God changed his heart and his ways. We are now remarried, and God has made everything better than before.
We MUST begin to obey the Lord by obeying his Word, and changing this uncommitted church of today to one that is committed to Christ by obedience to His Word!
6. Evangeline R. Johnson | December 31, 2008 at 3:55 pm
One reason we need a Savior is to be able to get through the crises we face. Many times I fail. Each one of us needs to walk, in the Lord’s power, in the light that He shows, not in the light of others. Who of us is strong following the letter of the Law? Quoting scripture goes beyond words. We are strong in Him. The love of God is already shed in our hearts – let it flow out. He doesn’t condemn. I do not condemn. I thank God’s for His grace to hold her and use her mightily. Because my husband is a retired minister I have seen, experienced and will continue to experience His mercy and goodness. Be empowered in HIS might Gigi.
7. Patricia | January 21, 2009 at 4:18 pm
Sadly one of Gigi’s sisters Ruth (Bunny) has just re-married for the 4th time after 3 divorces. The evangelical right continue to criticize Obama and so called liberal Christians when the Bible is just as strong, if not stronger, on its condemnation of the re-marriage of divorcees as on gay and pro-life issues. .
8. Rose | February 7, 2009 at 4:37 am
The Bible is very clear about marriage and divorce. I think most people would be shocked to find out the truth…Marriage is for Life. A wife is married to her husband as long as he lives.” 1 Corinthians 7:39 “A husband must not divorce his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:11 http://www.marriagedivorce.com
9. mary kay moore | March 5, 2009 at 2:59 am
Please tell Gigi I wore her phone # out with no
way to reach her. 828 200 0234. SOS and
miss you ever so much.
Mom is still with me at the Echerd Living Center
in Highlands.
Hope you get my note.
Call me . MKM
10. Maggie | March 16, 2009 at 4:11 pm
A NOTE FROM THE SITE AUTHOR:
I agree that we have a problem in the lack of regard for the institution of marriage and family and the picture it is supposed to be to the world. I do not place abortion and homosexuality in the same category for many reasons. It is unwise to do so. While all are sin, and God considers all sin to be sin…that does not mean all sin has the same earthly consequence. We need to speak carefully and consider thoughtfully on these matters.
God gives us guidelines for choosing our highest leaders in the church as those who have exhibited commitment, faithfulness, perseverence, and ability to maintain a healthy family life by urging men to not be “husbands of many wives”. Note that even that does not completely rule out a divorce–it simply means they show commitment to God’s plan for family without running around all over the place, and to honor most highly those who do.
These matters deserve more examination than the short quips given here AS “DEFINITIVE ANSWER” by any well-meaning people, even those speaking from personal experience. The Bible must be taken in whole as well as in individual verses on these issues.
CONSIDER THIS: God encouraged an Old Testament prophet to marry a prostitute.
Let’s urge people to follow Biblical admonitions, but let’s be careful to show grace. Perhaps God would be just as displeased by us tearing one another down on the internet, pointing out the faults or failures of others?
Several posts have been deleted on this post which are counterproductive to any respectful discussion. We are to speak in grace and truth, not just stab and jab at one another with the truth as we see it. As women of influence, we need to learn to disagree without being disagreeable. (We are not given license to use the “sword of truth” to whack one another upside the head.)
Thanks to all. Your thoughts and comments are always a joy and they do challenge me to think and think again! Thanks for visiting, and for sharing your thoughts.
Maggie
11. Carlien | April 4, 2009 at 11:01 am
Hi Maggie,
I just came across your blog and now feel compelled to leave a message.
I ‘googled’ Gigi Tchividjian because I recently finished a short book by her and received so much from it. I’ve never heard of her before and wanted to find out what else she’s written, if she has a presence on the internet.. or anything to just hear more from her.
Your blog entry came up near the top of the search results and it was wonderful to then follow your link to her article in DJ.. which also touched me (and encouraged me). As a young mother myself it was just what I needed to read, and I have been encouraged by Brother Lawrence’s writings in the past too, so Gigi’s reference there was a good reminder.
Yes, well and then I saw all the comments about Gigi’s divorce, and I’ve since seen other articles on the internet and I am saddened about it all. But.. I still feel like this is a lady I would love to meet one day in person, and I will keep looking out for her writing!
PS: your blog looks interesting too, and I will try to pop in here more in the future.
Blessings,
Carlien
12. Jaye | May 27, 2009 at 7:33 am
I have been divorced for many years. Even now it still hurts to talk about it. I married my husband believing that I could make him into the person I wanted him to be. I suspect he married me for similar reasons. Our children were three years and six months respectively when he left me for another woman. I wanted to die but I had to stay alive for my children. They needed me. I returned to church, having drifted away during my college years, and was treated like an outcast because I was divorced. My children were questioned about their father’s whereabouts by a Sunday School teacher. I had to laugh when my older one said “He’s probably at home watching MASH.” I could never understand why I was treated as if I were the one who broke our marriage vows. It was really no one’s business, and eventually we found a church where we were loved and accepted for who we were.
13. gigi Graham | September 22, 2009 at 6:30 pm
Maggie:
Thank you for your encouragement concerning something I wrote several years ago.
It humbles me to think my words can still be used by God to encourage young mothers.
I want to say however, that yes, in many ways I had an arranged marriage. I was only seventeen and did not know the man I married. My parents thought this was God’s will for my life, and we were married for 41 years, have seven children and 20 grandchildren. Although I am divorced, please be assured, I am not an advocate of divorce. Divorce is difficult. It causes hurt and brings shame. It has far reaching ripples that go on for many years. I will always regret the fact that my marriage ended. However, many precious Christians find themselves dealing with divorce. It is not God’s perfect plan, but there are circumstances where it is not only allowed but necessary.
I am grateful that I have a good relationship with my former husband, the father of our seven children. I will always consider him a friend and counselor. As to why our marriage ended, it is not something I desire to discuss.
But, please br assured I am not advocating divorce and I understand why God says He hates it. God hates all the hurt involved, however, He also extends grace and Romans 8:28 is very true. Given to Him, even our mistakes, faults, wrong turns, hurts, can become part of the “all things” that He can turn into something for our good and His glory.
We can never go down any path where His grace can not keep us.
As for my slugging, strangling, or whatever my present husband……. it is laughable. The reports were all part of misinformation. But, as part of a well known family, we are used to this and so pay little if any attention to these things.
Again, I am grateful for your encouragement as I have felt very inadequate to write or share since my divorce.
Blessings on you and your readers.
gigi
14. Flossie | October 4, 2009 at 4:56 pm
Most marriages in the OT were “arranged” as they still are in many parts ofthe World. I agree that divorce/seperation seems to be permitted Biblically and must be allowed legally when there is abuse of any kind. However, as I read it, the Bible appears to forbid re-marriage while the former partner is stil alive. How do American Evangelical Christians get round this teaching so lightly whilie holding such hard line opinons on issues regarding homosexuality and abortion which are barely mentioned in Scripture?
15. Maggie | October 12, 2009 at 10:14 am
Flossie, you are right that we do not take marriage seriously enough. It is meant to be once and for a lifetime or not at all. It is the binding of spirits and souls, not just a human commitment that is being made. I would suggest this reading for those needing more scriptural input on the issue. http://www.gotquestions.org/divorce-remarriage.html I would also like to suggest that we are now not under the law, but under grace. I’m not sure what this adds or takes away from this process, but to judge those going through hard times and making hard decisions is not what God intended either. People need the body of Christ MOST when they are going through hard times. I honestly believe there are emotional and physical abuses that would hold as much weight with the Lord as adultery in cases I have seen, and I do not think this would condemn a person to a life of single living. However, theses are my thoughts and not based on absolute scripture, so I hesitate to add them except in defense of those who have suffered trauma.
It would seem that most divorces as the result of simple “unfulfillment” or “generalized unhappiness” –a casual disregard for all that is involved in marriage.
However, I must disagree that homosexuality and abortion are barely mentioned in scripture. This is inaccurate. I caution folks to realize that though a scripture may not come up with a keyword search online or in a concordance doesn’t mean that it isn’t addressed throughout scripture reading his word as a whole, as these to issues are, often using less obvious “key words”.
The specific word “divorce” may come up more clearly using the same word we use today, but God had a lot to say about all of these issues; we would be wise to seek out His heart on all of them because are important to Him, and to us as societies. They all hold devastating consequences.
Consider the weight of Romans 1. Connect that with the story of Sodom and Gomorrah. These strong scriptures and stories are clear enough to understand the issue of homosexuality clearly and in the context God intended with no confusion. Even as a child, I understood them plainly. We realize in reading that it is not just the sin condemned, but how far the people were from God’s heart for a society to normalize abnormal sexual behaviors. They had disregarded God’s ways and did whatever seemed right to them in their own eyes. A condition that has brought God’s wrath throughout history…a “hardness of heart” has developed when that happens. A hardness that brings spiritual blindness and deafness. If you feel God’s grace now covers all sin, including these in New Testament days, I challenge you to read Ephesians 5 and see that God’s wrath is still operational today for those who continue to be deceived and turn against God. He is a parent and he disciplines his children. It is His job.
As to abortion, Psalm 139 is enough to settle my heart forever as to God’s feelings for the unborn. It doesn’t take more than that for me.
Divorce is normalized in our culture, and it is a problem. As far as I know, the scripture you suggest comes up only once…not nearly in the weight you suggest, though because Jesus said it, we give it our full attention and consider it’s meaning and implications for us today. Selfishness and gratification seem to be at the root of ALL these issues rather than a heart set on pleasing God, no matter the cost…which is, in the end, the mark of a disciple, a Christ-follower.
Yet, we are all human. God does forgive. And, we all suffer the consequences for each other’s sins in various ways, to various degrees.
16. J. David Toler | October 26, 2009 at 8:51 pm
I have known Gigi Graham since she was 15 years old. I have cheered for her in the best of times and in the worst of times been to her a prayer warrior, confidant, and friend.
I have noticed through the years how only in Christianity do we kill our wounded warriors. Though Abraham disobeyed God and took Lot out of Ur, and denounced his wife and lied about their relationship, and later complicated history by taking Hagar to birth “what he thought would be God’s promised child”, God never gave up on him and continued to develop him into a man he could call His “friend”.
King David, was adulterous and murdered the husband of Bathsheba, yet God knew the book was not finished and continued to develop him into a “man after God’s own heart.
Gigi, in these later years, is humble before the Lord, given to much worship, and yearns only to fulfill God’s purposes in her life. Through the trials and difficulties, she has become well seasoned to be a mouthpiece of His remarkable love and overwhelming grace to a generation of wounded and battered believers whose journey has not been all they thought it would be. We often get so caught up with the heroes of the first half of the 11th chapter of Hebrews, we ignore the ones in the rest of the chapter. We would see them today as being losers and unworthy of our attention. What a shame. The final chapter in Gigi’s life is yet to be written, and God is still molding the clay she remains to be in His hand. She is and will be a Champion of the faith whose words bring peace and comfort, solace and wholeness. You watch, you wait….you’ll see!!
Many blessings to you and your readers as we all continue on our Abbaquest.
J. David Toler
17. Lorena Crocker | November 17, 2009 at 2:42 am
Well said David Toler. I also appreciated Gigi sharing herself on this site. I have been involved with women for many years and was disappointed when I heard that Gigi’s marriage had ended in divorce. Life is full of painful situation’s and God is the only one who knows the beginning from the end. I trust Gigi will be fully restored to Minister and continue to be healed herself and bring healing to others. I have enjoyed many of her books.
Remember what Jesus said, he that is without sin cast the first stone. I have been blessed to be married for 47 years to a wonderful man. Many women are not so fortunate, however it is always a work in progress and you need three in the marriage. God must be at the centre and you both must want the marriage to work. We have other heartaches no family or marriage is perfect but God’s grace is sufficent. God Bless you Gigi and your family.
18. Debra Thompson | December 4, 2009 at 9:18 pm
How many of us really knew our spouse before we married them?
How many of us really knew our ourselves before we married?
How many of us really knew the Lord and His Word in depth before we married?
Thank the good Lord for teaching us, loving us, and growing us up in His knowledge. He heals and restores us, in His timing. May we have the patience, courage and endurance to run the race of life in honor and love to Him and others.
19. cj hagie | December 7, 2009 at 10:29 pm
Gigi, I have read some of your books, your mother’s and father’s
books and Franklin’s books. They have inspired me to live
closer to the Lord. One of your books, which was written about
the early years of your marriage
still inspires me. I am sorry about
your marriage ending, and wish you the best. The Lord knows
your heart and life much better than we know you, and loves
you. He is a God of grace, mercy, and longsuffering, and for
that I am very grateful